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Finding Role Models for children is difficult. A critical challenge for
single moms in particular is finding powerful role models of Manhood (something
both boys and girls need). Many children whose fathers are not around think
that men are distant, macho creatures that aren't very loving or playful.
Some children have the perception that loving and playful men aren't very
masculine. Boys need role models to follow, and girls need good examples
by which they will someday evaluate the men in their lives. Even the very
best of parents sometimes struggle with finding other adults they can trust
to be leaders for their children.
Scot Conway - Scot is playful
with kids, affectionate and loving, yet he balances that with
powerful authority that inspires the kids. Despite being fun
and enthusiastic and connecting with the kids on that level,
he has all the "tough guy" and "achiever" credentials.
As a high ranked Black Belt, he is clearly a skilled fighter,
yet people feel safer when he's around. He's earned a Ph.D. and
a J.D. and he's a lawyer, so children learn that education is
not just to "get a job" but to be educated! He edifies
and supports parents, explains things to the kids, and encourages
them to admire and support the people that love them most.
Stewart True - Stewart is a 4th degree Black Belt and the Assistant Head Instructor at the Guardian Academy. He is powerful and playful, having been personally trained by Scot Conway to teach children. He is strong and tough, but he is also loving and gentle. He is an incredible example to children, young men in particular, of what they can achieve if they choose.
Wendy Conway - Wendy is a 5th degree Black Belt, a skilled and powerful fighter, did three years of high school in a single year to graduate early, and she is Scot's partner in the business. She balances this power and achievement with her femininity, showing that women can be powerfully feminine, that they can do everything a man can do and still be womanly.
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Sample
lesson:
Here's a quick sample lesson: Scot and Wendy are walking down the street when a bad guy jumps out with a knife and tries to kill them. Who should Scot hit first, Wendy or the bad guy? Who should Wendy hit first? Obviously, the bad guy. What if it's not a physical bad guy? What if it's a financial problem trying to destroy the family finances? What do we do first, beat each other up with our words, or beat up the problem with a solution? The kids get it. They really do.
It's even amazing how much the kids can pick up on
advanced relationship principles. In one class with 7 year olds,
Scot went over a whole bunch of concepts really, really fast. The
kids got the right answers more than half the time. Amazing, especially
considering how much he mentioned in less than fifteen minutes.
By their second or third time they saw the list in class, they
could name most of the items with just initials to remind them.
Here's a list: Physical Fulfillment (hugs and kisses), Attractive Partner, Recreational Companionship, Domestic Support, Admiration, Affection/Romance, Openess/Honesty, Conversation, Commitment/Commitment/Commitment, Love, Respect, Attention, Cooperation, Play, Quality Time, Physical Touch, Acts of Service, Gifts, Words of Affirmation, Sanguine, Choleric, Melancholy, Phlegmatic, Visual, Auditory, Kinesthetic, Agape, Phileo, Eros (excitement, fun), Entrepreneur, Manager, Technician.
(If you want to know more about most of these concepts, go to www.ScotConway.org.)
Think about what kind of future these kids can have
under the consistent influence of these leaders.
ADULTS, TOO
It is interesting
that even some adults have joined the class saying simply "I
need to hear this." Others have joined simply to be around
the people. One wife whose husband transferred from another martial
art style reported that her husband had often been stressed or
bothered when he came home, but now he's in a good mood, learning
a lot of great stuff, and he really loves being in class. Sometimes
it's just nice being around people who practice what they preach
and have simple, practical answers to so many things.
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